From A Quiet One

So, I don't think anyone who knows me would say that I am a quiet person. I talk a lot & am pretty comfortable around people. But there is a part of me & a lot of others like me that is quiet. 

Do you ever find yourself telling someone or wanting to tell someone, "Just because you scream the loudest doesn't mean you'll get the most attention." Sometimes I really wish that were true. Because if you think about it, which one of your kids or friends gets the most attention? The one who screams the loudest. Who in your extended family or workplace gets the most attention? The one who causes the most drama. It's so true. The people who cause problems & make drama are the ones who get the spotlight & attention.

And then, there are the quiet ones. The ones who say, "I'm fine," when you ask how they are doing. The ones who never make a big stink about anything. The ones who always seem to have everything together. The ones that people often go to for counsel. The friend you always call to unload on. The child who outwardly is always obedient & hardly ever gets in trouble. The people who work behind the scenes without being told or noticed.

 The ones who inside have just as many problems, hurts, & drama as the others, you just never know about it. Most of the time, we are wearing the "fine & put together" mask, where the others just have the boldness & honesty not to put one on at all. Sometimes I want to scream & fall apart just so someone will notice I'm really not fine. Sometimes I would like someone who really cares to unload on. Sometimes I wish someone would notice the things I do behind the scenes. 

I do not normally write things of this nature, but I felt really strongly that this was a God thought & not a Candy one. I am not writing this for people to tell me I'm doing a good job or to feel sorry for me, but on behalf of all the other quiet ones out there who need a little attention. Some encouragement. A thank-you. 

Quiet ones- Take heart. The King of all Kings notices & He cares even when you feel taken advantage of. Be honest. Take off your mask. Bear your soul. Learn from the screamers. Maybe you should scream a little. :) Encourage another quiet one.

Screamers- Thanks for being honest. Thanks for not wearing a mask. But maybe learn to scream a little less. God hears whispers too. Take notice of the quiet ones. Go find one. Tell them you notice & give them some attention.




Comments

  1. Bailey PruettAugust 6, 2013 at 5:02 PM

    Love this, Candy. Thanks...

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  2. ClaritaAugust 6, 2013 at 9:50 PM

    This makes tears prick in my eyes. I'm one of those too - not shy, but just not a 'screamer'. I loved your thoughts here; God's thoughts through you!

    Also, just thinking and wondering... I'd love to repost this, but I'd want to do it with your permission. What would you think?
    xoxo

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  3. Glidewell FamilyAugust 6, 2013 at 10:18 PM

    One of my favorite verses. Because I am a quiet person. Proverbs 17:28
    Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues.
    Good Post!

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  4. UnknownAugust 7, 2013 at 2:36 AM

    Thanks for your honesty and for the reminder that God loves us and comforts both the screamers and the quiet ones. He knows our hurts and our pain, even the ones no one else knows about.

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  5. ChristyOctober 7, 2013 at 7:04 AM

    I identify so much with this post. Thank you!

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