Expectations- Good or Bad?

As a Type A, task-oriented planner, I have expectations about everything. For myself, for my husband, for my kids, for my time, for the future... Have you ever set down and just wrote out the expectations you have for yourself? It is absolutely ridiculous! I would literally have to be Superwoman to accomplish and be everything I expect myself to be. Anyway. The Lord has really been dealing with me on this. Is it good to have expectations? It seems that I am always getting upset or down because something didn't work out as I expected. I expect my husband to love me, but sometimes the things he does don't seem very loving. I expect my kids to obey and behave, but when I have to leave the mall tugging each one by the arm screaming- yeah. I expect to be able to learn Tagalog, but then it takes me over a minute to spit out one simple sentence. I expect to be able to balance my time, but it seems that something is always suffering for more time. I expect plans for my future to go how we've been told they would, but I can testify, that they hardly EVER do. Each one of these brings a little tinge of disappointment and sometimes tears and anger. Is this the way God wants me to live each day? I heard a quote once, but I'm not sure from where. "A woman with no expectations is never disappointed." That is soooo true with the exception of one expectation. Psalms 62:5 says this, "My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him." So, really, the only expectation I should have is of the Lord. He NEVER disappoints. He's ALWAYS the same. He fulfills EVERY expectation. So trash all the unrealistic expectations of yourself, your family, and your life and expect great and awesome things from the LORD!

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  1. AnonymousApril 24, 2010 at 7:47 PM

    I completely know how you feel! I love what you said:

    "A woman with no expectations is never disappointed." That is soooo true with the exception of one expectation. Psalms 62:5 says this, "My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him." So, really, the only expectation I should have is of the Lord. He NEVER disappoints.

    Very true. I think it's better to have no expectations. You won't get disappointed as much and you'll be happier too. :)

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